My Lesbian Husband Landscapes of a Marriage

Barrie Jean Borich

Graywolf Press




298 Pages



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Winner of the American Library Association GLBT Book Award
Finalist for the Lambda Literary Award

This is "passionate, intricately composed memoir of the author's long-term love relationship [is] much broader than a lesbian interest title . . . It will resonate with many readers, regardless of sexual orientation" (Kirkus Reviews). Indeed, My Lesbian Husband presents nothing less than "a gorgeous, tender aria to marriage. Borich tells of discovering with astonishment, through twelve years of devotion to the same woman, how much she delights in fidelity. She writes like a woman possessed—enraptured by the sensual pleasures of words, by the power of stories, by the gravity of [her native Minneapolis] neighborhood—and reminds us that marriage is made not by the joining of bodies shaped a certain way, but by the joining of two lives, careers, and histories in one place, in one embrace" (Scott Russell Sanders).


Praise for My Lesbian Husband

"A book to be savored—lying with your head in your girlfriend's lap."—Out

"[Borich is] an empathetic writer who can do justice to simple happiness and complicated love."—MS.

"A compelling, profoundly felt book . . . A clear and rare view into the lives of two women and their world. . . . This lively memoir helps us to come that much closer to a mystery: the inexplicable fact of long-held affection, long-held desire, which can bind two people far more deeply than state or church ever could."—Mark Doty, Ruminator Review

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  • Barrie Jean Borich

  • Barrie Jean Borich is the winner of many literary awards. She is also the author of Restoring the Color of Roses, a memoir set in the Calumet region of Chicago, where she grew up. Today she lives with her beloved, Linnea Stenson, in Minneapolis, Minnesota, and teaches at Hamline University and the Minneapolis College of Art and Design.