"To Love What Is is aflame with intensely lived life . . . The publication of To Love What Is makes clear that she is no bra-burning dinosaur but an ever-evolving woman, eager to bring us along on the latest stage of her odyssey through bedrooms, kitchens, and rooms of one's own. To Love What Is makes a powerful read in itself, but ideally it should be published in a four-volume set, alongside Memoirs of an Ex-Prom Queen and Shulman's subsequent memoirs . . . Born in 1933, Alix Kates Shulman was older than many of her sixties compatriots; so today, she's out ahead of some of us in exploring this next chapter of women's experience. But don't read To Love What Is looking for any endings, happy or otherwise. Alix Kates Shulman is still dynamically in the midst of living her life."—Diana Postlethwaite, The Women's Review of Books
"To Love What Is is the tale of how Shulman struggled to cope once their lives had split irrevocably in two. The book, which is not particularly long, is divided into nine chapters, and some of the most powerful writing comes in the first of them, when Shulman describes the accident and its immediate aftermath. What makes the event so gripping is the fact that the cabin's remote location means that the rescue crews seem to take forever to arrive and the suspense is often unbearable. Shulman treats the material, like any good writer, as a small-scale tragedy with major implications, and she's as skillful in this depiction of fear and the slow drip of time as any novelist. Shulman tailors her brief scenes with such perfect pacing that we are never altogether certain what this man's fate will be . . . Shulman has given us one of the clearest, funniest, saddest and most invaluable portraits of what a brain injury does to a human being, as well as to all who surround and care for him."—Robert Leiter, Jewish Exponent
Alix Kates Shulman is the author of four novels, including Memoirs of an Ex-Prom Queen; two previous memoirs, including the award-winning Drinking the Rain; and two books on the anarchist Emma Goldman.