"This splendid book enlarges our imagination of the range and possibilities of love."
- Mary Gordon, The New York Times Book Review
"Bayley's restrained and elegant love song to his wife of forty-two years...is beautiful and heartbreaking. The whole lifetime shared in Elegy for Iris is full of spirit, generous and resilient."
- Gail Caldwell, The Boston Globe
"Here is love heroic, love that doesn't hedge, love for which they may be no ready outs, love that feels as inevitable as breathing, and the result is stunning."
- Abraham Verghese, Los Angeles Times Book Review
"In Elegy for Iris I find my mother and father, my wife's parents, our friends, and us. I find shared lives, and hurts and forgivenesses, and joys that are greatest because nobody else knows them."
- Dan Rather
"Heartfelt and admirably unsentimental...a testament to a love that has endured and transcended the most terrifying ravages of illness and old age."
- Francine Prose, Elle
"Wise and full of grace."
- Shelby Hearon, The Chicago Tribune
"Dame Iris Murdoch's like will not be seen again. Elegy for Iris serves as a memorial to her person."
- Fay Weldon, Time