Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and women and enable them to better understand their sexual preferences. Drawing on his twenty-five years as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Bader demonstrates that rather than being programmed by biology or society, sexual fantasies and preferences are really psychological antidotes to unconscious dangers. Armed with this novel theory, men and women will no longer need to feel ashamed about what arouses them or confused about what arouses others.
Dr. Bader tells the stories of his patients and explains the meaning of their sexual fantasies. In terms free of jargon, he reveals how his new theory can be used to decipher a wide variety of sexual fantasies and behavior, ranging from ordinary preferences about positions in bed to flamboyant scenarios worthy of the Marquis de Sade. And yet Dr. Bader's new theory transcends the realm of individual psychology. Readers will come away with a new understanding of such issues as sexual chemistry and boredom, cybersex, pornography, and the differences in how men and women get excited.