OVERRIDE

The Over-Scheduled Child

Avoiding the Hyper-Parenting Trap

St. Martin's Griffin

Do you find yourself asking "Whose life is it anyway?" Parenting today has come to resemble a relentless to-do list. Even parents with the best intentions strive to micro-manage every detail of their kids' lives and live in constant fear that their child will under-perform in any area--academic, social, athletic. Lists and schedules, meetings and appointments invade our every moment and the need to be the best dominates--and undermines--our own sense of self as well as our children's. In their groundbreaking new book The Over-Scheduled Child, renowed child psychiatrist Alvin Rosenfeld, M.D., and longtime family-issues journalist Nicole Wise combine personal and professional experience to take action against what they see as our overeager pursuit of perfection. The clear, comforting steps they prescribe to attack this rampant phenomenon will promote healthier and happier children and revitalize the parenting experience.

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1With the Best IntentionsKathy and Paul are a little anxious. After three years of trying, they are thrilled to finally be parents, and Julia is a delightful eight month old with a wonderful disposition. But lately they have noticed that Julia isn’t developing at anywhere near the pace of her cousin Andrew who, although a month younger, is already crawling and even saying Ma-Ma and Da-Da. “I’m trying to be calm about all of this,” says Kathy. “The pediatrician tells me that her development is well within the normal range … but I’m worried that maybe Julia
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"An excellent book which should be read by every thinking parent. We don't have to over-schedule our children to help them succeed. Ironically, they are probably better off if we don't." --The Times (London)

"This book will convince today's overly stressed, harried parents--working too diligently but without joy or spontaneity--to stop striving for perfection and renew their faith in their own loving instincts." --Nancy Samalin, M.S., author of Loving Your Child is Not Enough and director and parent education or Parent Guidance Workshops in New York City

"[The Over-Scheduled Child] sends an urgently needed message to today's parents, who are constantly feeling pressured to achieve and who, in turn, are constantly pressuring their children to reach for more. It is a plea that parents everywhere should heed." --Lawrence Balter Ph.D, Professor of Applied Psychology, New York University and author of Who's in Control?: Dr. Balter's Guide to Discipline Without Combat

"A wonderfully informative and restorative read for all parents." --Kyle Pruett, M.D., author of Fatherneed: Why Father Care is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

  • Alvin Rosenfeld, M.D. is a greatuate of Cornell and Harvard Medical School, has taught at Harvard and Columbia and has headed the child psychiatry training program at Stanford. Currently he divides his time between private practices in New York City and Greenwich, Connecticut. Dr. Rosenfeld has written four books and over seventy articles on issues including child abuse, foster care, and psychotherapy. He lives with his wife, a pediatrician, and their three children in Stamford, Connecticut.

    Nicole Wise is an award-winning freelance journalist who has written about family life for more than a decade. Her work has been featured in a wide range of national and international publications, including Parents, The New York Times, Redbook, and Cosmopolitan. Wise also lives in Stamford with her family.

    Robert Coles, M.D., a researcher and professor of psychiatry at Harvard and a Pulitzer Prize winner, has written numerous books and articles on the intellectual and spiritual lives of children.
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Avoiding the Hyper-Parenting Trap

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