Love Signals

A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship

David Givens, Ph.D.

St. Martin's Griffin

A world renowned anthropologist explores the non-verbal signs, signals, and cues human beings exchange to attract and keep their mates. As a medium of communication, Love's silent language predates speech by millions of years. Today, we still express emotions and feelings largely apart from words. The postures, gestures, and facial cues of attraction are universal, in all societies and cultures.

According to Dr. Givens, courtship moves slowly though five distinct phases: attracting attention, recognition phase, conversation phase, touching phase, making love. Since potential mates "test" each other before uniting as one, courtship is a choreographed give and take of signs granting physical and emotional closeness.

Love Signals is part enthnography and part how-to. Dr. Givens documents the little courting rituals witnessed in elevators, on subways, and in the workplace. He examines the essential role the face plays in courtship and how it can be optimally displayed. He decodes the body to find silent messages given off by shoulders, neck, arms, hands, waist, calves, ankles, feet, and toes. Dr. Givens analyzes expressive shapes, colors, and markings encoded in arm wear, shoulder wear, leg wear, and shoes. He deciphers the background messages of spaces, places and interiors to learn how environs help or hinder in the meeting process. Chemical cues emanating from aromas, tastes, steroids, sterols, and hormones strongly shape a partner's feelings, so they are explored as well.

The book suggests ways to flirt, avoid mixed signals, read eyes, walk, dress, and lift a drink—to help you find a date, spark a relationship, and keep a mate. Knowing the hidden vocabulary of love signals will give you an edge. The more you know about these secret skills of attraction, the more likely you will find a loving, lasting partner.


Praise for Love Signals

Praise for Dr. Givens' on-line Nonverbal Dictionary:

"A masterful piece of work."
- American Library Association

"Highly recommended."
- New Scientist

"It's contents will enlighten you."
- Discover Magazine's "Pick of the Web"

"Site of the Day."
- Good Housekeeping

"Tells all you need to know--and much, much, much more."
- San Francisco Examiner "Website of the Week"

"Very interesting reading."
- Houston Chronicle

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  • David Givens, Ph.D.

  • David Givens, Ph.D., is the director of the Center for Nonverbal Studies in Spokane, Washington. He teaches Communication and Leadership in the graduate program of the School of Professional Studies at Gonzaga University. He is the author of Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship, Crime Signals: How to Spot a Criminal Before You Become a Victim, and Your Body at Work: A Guide to Sight-reading the Body Language of Business, Bosses, and Boardrooms. He offers seminars on nonverbal communication to diverse audiences, including lawyers, judges, social workers, salespeople, and physicians.

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Love Signals

A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship

David Givens, Ph.D.




St. Martin's Griffin