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Singled Out

How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

Bella DePaulo, Ph.D.

St. Martin's Griffin

Single Americans are redefining the traditional adult lifestyles in this country.  More than 40 percent of the nation’s adults—over 87 million people—are divorced, widowed, or have always been single. There are more households comprised of single people living alone than of married parents and their children. Americans now spend more of their adult years single than married. 

Many of today's single people have careers, homes that they own, and a network of friends, many of whom are also single. In the twenty-first century, singles can have sex without marrying, and they can raise smart, successful, and happy children. Yet too often single people are still asked to defend their single status by an onslaught of judgmental peers and fretful relatives. 
 
Drawing from decades of scientific research and stacks of stories from real single Americans, Bella DePaulo challenges the myths of singledom that have been proposed by prominent politicians, the popular media, and the intelligentsia—and finds that much of what we hear about the benefits of getting married and the perils of staying single are exaggerated or simply false. Although singles are singled out for unfair treatment by the workplace, the marketplace, and the federal tax structure, Dr. DePaulo says that they are not always victims of this singlism. Successful singledom is possible in America today. 

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Singled Out
CHAPTER ONESinglism: The Twenty-First-Century Problem That Has No NameI think married people should be treated fairly. They should not be stereotyped, stigmatized, discriminated against, or ignored. They deserve every bit as much respect as single people do.I can imagine a world in which married people were not treated appropriately, and if that world ever materialized, I would protest. Here are a few examples of what I would find offensive:When you tell people you are married, they tilt their heads and say things like "Aaaawww" or "Don't worry, honey, your turn to divorce will
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Praise for Singled Out

"Singled Out" may be the single most important book you buy this year."
--Bookworm Sez
 
"Gleefully debunks a number of sad-sack "facts." According to DePaulo's myth-busting research, [singles] are every bit as happy, healthy, and long-lived as couples."
--Seattle Metropolitan
 
"If you're sick of your family asking, "So when are you gonna settle down?" or your boss saddling you with a fatter workload than your married coworkers, you will love Dr. Bella DePaulo's insightful, irreverent book."
--Michelle Goodman, author of The Anti 9-to-5 Guide
 
"An engaging new book that brims with invigorating wit and unparalleled perspective."
--Tucson Citizen
 
"Intriguing cultural study . . .DePaulo has given this complicated subject the attention and respect it deserves."
--Publisher's Weekly
 
"DePaulo dismantles [a few other] claims of the pro-marriage lobby."
--Time Magazine
 
"Don't miss Bella DePaulo's Singled Out."
--Sasha Cagen, author of QuirkyAlone
 
"She has a message for singles and couples alike: If you forget about your nonromantic relationships, you're missing out on a whole lot of love."
--Santa Barbara News-Press
 
"An expose of the widespread cultural bias facing unmarried adults in America."
--Harvard Magazine
 
"[A] terrific book"
--Amy Alkon, Syndicated Advice Columnist
 
"A masterpiece…filled with inspirational quotes…Every single should read this book"
--Yuspie (Young Urban Single Professionals of Indiana) Book Club
 
"[Shows that singles] can be as productive, charming, fun, moral, and wise as their coupled counterparts"
--Virginia Quarterly Review
 
"DePaulo combines her training as a social psychologist with wit and sharp analysis, bringing the entire "marriage is better" argument down like a house of cards."
--Windy City Times
 

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

  • Bella DePaulo, Ph.D.

  • BELLA DEPAULO, Ph.D., is a social psychologist who did her graduate work at Harvard. She is currently a visiting professor at the University of California at Santa Barbara. DePaulo is single and living happily ever after in Summerland, California.
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Singled Out

How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

Bella DePaulo, Ph.D.

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