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How Should a Person Be?

A Novel from Life

Sheila Heti

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ISBN10: 125003244X
ISBN13: 9781250032447

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By turns loved and reviled upon its U.S. publication, Sheila Heti's How Should a Person Be? is an unabashedly honest and hilarious tour through the unknowable pieces of one woman's heart and mind. Part literary novel, part self-help manual, and part vivid exploration of the artistic and sexual impulse, the book earned Heti comparisons to Henry Miller, Joan Didion, Mary McCarthy, and Flaubert, while shocking and exciting readers with its raw, urgent depiction of female friendship and of the shape of our lives now. Irreverent, brilliant, and completely original, Heti challenges, questions, frustrates, and entertains in equal measure. With urgency and candor she asks: What is the most noble way to love? What kind of person should you be?

Reviews

Praise for How Should a Person Be?

"Funny . . . odd, original, and nearly unclassifiable...unlike any novel I can think of."—David Haglund, The New York Times Book Review

"Brutally honest and stylistically inventive, cerebral, and sexy."—San Francisco Chronicle

"One of the bravest, strangest, most original novels I've read this year."—Christopher Boucher, The Boston Globe

"A vital and funny picture of the excitements and longueurs of trying to be a young creator in a free, late-capitalist Western city."—James Wood, The New Yorker

"It is easy to see why a book on the anxiety of celebrity has turned the author into one herself."—The Economist

"How Should a Person Be? teeters between youthful pretension and irony in ways that are as old as Flaubert's Sentimental Education . . . but Ms. Heti manages to give Sheila's struggle a contemporary and particular feel . . . How Should a Person Be? reveals a talented young voice of a still inchoate generation."—Kay Hymowitz, The Wall Street Journal

"I read this eccentric book in one sitting, amazed, disgusted, intrigued, sometimes titillated I'll admit to that, but always in awe of this new Toronto writer who seems to be channeling Henry Miller one minute and Joan Didion the next. Heti's book is pretty ugly fiction, accent on the pretty."Alan Cheuse, NPR's All Things Considered


"Heti's craft never fails . . . Novels are supposed to grab one's attention, and Heti's wonderfully baggy, honest and affecting book does exactly that."—New Orleans Times-Picayune

"A significant cultural artifact."Hannah Tennant-Moore, Los Angeles Review of Books

"Heti knows what she's doing—much of the pleasure of How Should a Person Be? comes from watching her control the norms she's subverting."—Michelle Dean, Slate

"[A] breakthrough novel . . . Just as Mary McCarthy's The Company She Keeps (written at the same age) was an explosive and thrilling rejoinder to the serious, male coming-of-age saga exemplified during her era by Sartre's The Age of Reason, Heti's book exuberantly appropriates the same, otherwise tired genre to encompass female experience. How Should a Person Be?'s deft, picaresque construction, which lightly-but-devastatingly parodies the mores of Toronto's art scene, has more in common with Don Quixote than with Lena Dunham's HBO series 'Girls' or the fatuous blogs and social media it will, due to its use of constructed reality, inevitably be compared with . . . Like [Kathy] Acker, [Heti] is a brilliant, original thinker and an engaging writer."—Chris Kraus, Los Angeles Review of Books

"The book's form is fluid and unpredictable . . . [and] the architecture gives the prose a circular, easy feeling, even though Heti is taking a hard look at what makes life meaningful and how one doesn't end up loveless and lost. It is book peopled by twentysomethings but works easily as a manual for anyone who happens to have run into a spiritual wall."—Sasha Frere-Jones, The Paris Review


"If you're not already reading Sheila Heti's second novel How Should A Person Be?, you should be. Heti's rousing, unapologetically messy, beautifully written, insightful and provocative book explores the frustrations and rewards of female friendship, and of trying to make art as a young woman in the 21st century . . . Heti is doing something very exciting within the form of the novel." —Jezebel

"Heti excels at developing a cast of engaging, colorful and flawed characters."—Willamette Week

"[A]n unforgettable book: intellectually exacting, unsettling in its fragility, bodily as anything painted by Freud, experimental yet crafted as hell, and yes, very funny."—The National Post

"Enlightening, profoundly intelligent, and charming to read....It reflects life in its incredible humor—and in some of its weird bits that might be muddled or unclear...with anxiety, hilarity and lots of great conversation."—Interview Magazine

"There are no convenient epiphanies in Sheila Heti's newest book How Should a Person Be? Instead there are several intertwined, grinding and brilliantly uncomfortable ones that require the reader to shed a few dozen layers in the service of self-discovery . . . She may depart from broad harbors, but she is an analytic zealot, never imparting trite one-liners or excusing herself. Reading her is an act of participation, discomfort and joy."—SF Weekly

"[Heti creates] one of the most personable antiheroes ever . . . Her tone can be earnest and eager to please, flippant and crass, terribly lucid and darkly funny . . . Her tortured self-deprecation can read a little like Violette Leduc's, and her poetic bluntness sometimes reminds me of Eileen Myles, but these authors come to mind mostly because, like Heti, they have written about women with unusual detail and feeling. Heti truly has a startling voice all her own, and a fresh take on fiction and autobiography's overlap."—Bookforum

"A fresh spin on friendship, art, sex, and philosophy in five acts. And the prose, often taking the form of a numbered list, is always engaging."—Daily Candy

"Original . . . hilarious . . . Part confessional, part play, part novel, and more—it's one wild ride . . . Think HBO'S Girls in book form." —Marie Claire

"Not the kind of book that comes along often. It's highly quotable, funny, shocking, anxiety-inducing and, finally, inspiring . . . It is undeniably of the moment, a blueprint of how to be lost in the Internet Age."—Thought Catalog

"Bawdy, idiosyncratic . . . The title makes me quake with envy. All good books should be called just that."—Chad Harbach

"A seriously strange but funny plunge into the quest for authenticity."—Margaret Atwood

"I don't know how to begin talking about Sheila Heti or how good she is. People will say How Should A Person Be? is reminiscent of Patti Smith's Just Kids or Ann Patchett's Truth & Beauty and both of these things will be true. But I am still reeling from the originality of this novel. There are passages here so striking, to read them is to be punched in the heart."—Sloane Crosley, author of How Did You Get This Number

"Utterly beguiling: blunt, charming, funny, and smart. Heti subtly weaves together ideas about sex, femininity and artistic ambition. Reading this genre-defying book was pure pleasure."—David Shields, author of Reality Hunger

"A book that risks everything . . . Complex, artfully messy, and hilarious."—Miranda July

"A really amazing metafiction-meets-nonfiction novel."—Lena Dunham

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BOOK EXCERPTS

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Chapter 1

SHOLEM PAINTS

We were having brunch together. It was Sunday. I got there first, then Misha and Margaux arrived, then Sholem and his boyfriend, Jon.

A few weeks earlier, the owners had repainted the diner...

About the author

Sheila Heti

Sheila Heti is the author of several books of fiction, including The Middle Stories and Ticknor; and an essay collection written with Misha Glouberman, The Chairs Are Where the People Go. Her writing has been translated into ten languages and her work has appeared in The New York Times, Bookforum, McSweeney's, n+1, The Guardian, and other places. She works as interviews editor at The Believer magazine and lives in Toronto.

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