Often children are frightened and confused by their own angry feelings. They need to be reassured that this emotion is a normal part of life. When I'm Angry, one of the first books in the Language of Parenting series, explains this difficult subject in a completely original and practical way. Jane Aaron's boldly illustrated children's book features simple language and vivid imaged that capture a child's attention. Depicting kids in typical situation that evoke anger, the illustrations help children realize that others not only experience the same feelings, but find positive ways to cope with them.
Because it is often difficult to talk with children about such abstract concepts as feelings, When I'm Angry includes a guide for parents written by respected therapist Dr. Barbara Gardiner. A Parent's Guide to Anger shows parents how to use When I'm Angry to interact with their children and conduct meaningful dialogue specific to the needs of children at different ages. Parents are asked to validate their child's feelings and share their own similar experiences with anger as starting points for discussion. Dr. Gardiner pinpoint some common situations and how to deal with them:
--fight over toys.
--"hating" a sibling.
--frustration over losing a game.
Dr. Gardiner's Language of Parenting is based on the fundamental ABC' of parenting: acknowledging a child's feelings (accepting anger and directing it appropriately), having age-appropriate behavioral expectations (a two-year old should be able to sit at the table without throwing food), and demonstrating consistency in parenting style (maintaining house rules such as bedtime). She emphasizes the importance of allowing children to generate their own solutions.