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When Good People Have Affairs

When Good People Have Affairs

Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships

Mira Kirshenbaum

St. Martin's Griffin


A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a:

--"See-if" affair?

--Ejector-seat affair?

--Distraction affair?

--Unmet-needs affair?

--Panic affair?

Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as:

--What am I missing in my marriage?

--How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange?

--How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both?

When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Praise for When Good People Have Affairs

“Gets to the heart of the matter…a fascinating and insightful read.” —Pepper Schwartz, PhD, author of Prime

“Offers some helpful--and sometimes surprising--advice.” —Time

“A wise and welcome addition to the self-help literature on infidelity.” —Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, author of After the Affair


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Mira Kirshenbaum

MIRA KIRSHENBAUM is clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute in Boston, and has been treating patients in individual and couples therapy for over 30 years. She is the Relationship Expert at, and the author of ten other books.

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