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How to Help the One You Love

How to Help the One You Love

A New Way to Intervene and Stop Someone from Self-Destructing

Brad Lamm

St. Martin's Griffin


"As a thorough guide to helping substance abusers find help, this makes a valuable addition to the self-help shelves."—Publishers Weekly (starred review)

A powerful, groundbreaking book that shows you, in concrete steps, how to help a loved one stop from engaging in self-destructive behavior.

Is your husband drinking himself to death? Is your brother losing it all to gambling? Do you need to get your kid off drugs before it's too late? Or make your spendthrift sister stop maxing out her credit cards? Get your best friend out of an abusive relationship? If you're tired of watching your spouse, child, relative, or friend go downhill, dragging you with them, How to Help the One You Love will help you turn their lives around. You don't have to endure behavior that is unhealthy, abusive, or even deadly. You can break down the great myths around change—and help them change for good.

Many books will tell you that you can't change anyone. They advise you to not even try. But they ignore the tremendous power you actually have to change people. If most books about change are written for the person in trouble, How to Help the One You Love reaches out to the loved ones: people who know that change is critical and urgent. How to Help the One You Love is not just a self-help book; it's a help-you-act book.

"Brad Lamm's book is a must-read for those seeking help!"—Nancy Grace, host of the Nancy Grace show on CNN

Note: Previously published as How to Change Someone You Love.

(One: You've Got the Power!)
If anyone needed to change, it was me.

From the time I was a teenager, I had a preoccupation with catching a buzz. The son of a preacher, I grew up in a drug- and alcohol-free home in Eugene, Oregon. Our house,...

Praise for How to Help the One You Love

"As a thorough guide to helping substance abusers find help, this makes a valuable addition to the self-help shelves. - Publishers Weekly (starred review) -

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Brad Lamm

Brad Lamm is an author & educator best known for helping people make life-enhancing change on The Dr. OZ Show. Brad is the Founder of Intervention Specialists, a crisis intervention group helping family and friends enable a resistant loved one to make change using his "invitational" intervention method whereby the loved one is invited to his or her own intervention. In 2008 Brad founded The Change Institute to help inform and inspire folks to live better, lighter lives through weight loss and smoking cessation programs.

Brad believes that one's circle of friends and family is uniquely poised to offer support, accountability and structure from a beginning point of love and honesty -- no matter how broken-down or discouraged they may feel. Highly motivated and with long-term recovery himself, Brad's teaching style is no-nonsense and accessible, blending hope with the dynamic nature of his work. Previously a network-affiliate news anchor, his TV work today centers on his role as a regular on The Dr. OZ Show. He is a Creator and Producer of an upcoming series for OWN (The Oprah Winfrey Network).

His best-selling books include:
- How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them
- How to Help the One You Love: A New Way to Intervene (December 2010)
- Just Ten! Easy Steps to Weighing What You Want (FINALLY!) (Jan 2011)

Brad lives in NYC with his family.

St. Martin's Griffin

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