Limhamn, 10 June

Dear Karl Ove,

Let me start off with a memory I have from 19 November 1983. I was in Paris devoting myself to my studies, living at the Cité Universitaire, writing for the now-defunct daily paper Arbetet and working on a dissertation about a French author I had discovered the year before, Georges Navel. This was a happy time in my life. In August of the same year I found out that my first novel Malmö Dockers, Report! had been accepted by Bonnier, and I was still on a high knowing I was to be what I’d dreamed of being for a long time: a writer. My days were spent attending the Collège de France listening to Michel Foucault and Emmanuel Le Roy Ladurie, or sneaking in to the École Normale and listening to Jacques Derrida. To sit at the feet of Foucault and Derrida only served to intensify the intellectual high I was living on at the time.

November 19 was the day before my thirty-second birthday. I was sitting in a student restaurant on the Boulevard Saint-Michel when a man with the stern, sad features of a South American Indian sat down across from me. We fell into conversation. It turned out he was Mexican and worked as a chemist on the nearby rue d’Assas. I’d been planning a small dinner party at my student bedsit to celebrate my birthday the following day, and on a whim I invited along Juan, as he was called. We became friends, began to socialise, and after a while I learned that he’d moved to Paris with an American woman with whom he had a child. He settled down in the city, but after some time, he’d realised he was a homosexual, got divorced and was now living with a French man. One day we got around to talking about Octavio Paz. I expressed my admiration for the Mexican poet and informed my new friend that I wished to learn Spanish so as to be able to read Paz in the original, and I wondered if we, Juan and I, could read Paz together. And that’s what happened. On a park bench in the Luxembourg Gardens. He read aloud to me. I repeated after him and savoured phrases like El laberinto de la soledad and A cinco años de Tlatelollo and the word soledad was so beautiful, I thought, it was worth learning a whole new language for that alone.

And that was how the door to Latin America opened for me.

The park bench in the Luxembourg Gardens allowed me – if you can say that every language is a house – to clamber into the Spanish house. The strange thing is I’ve always felt so at home there, as though Spanish had been waiting for me, or in me. There’s an airiness, it’s a language of beautiful sonorous vowel sounds and through it I ended up in Portuguese – NB: the Brazilian variant – also beautiful, but more difficult to pronounce, harder to comprehend and much more consonantal, without the same buoyancy.

So I’m off again. Latin America for, I think, about the twentieth time. On my first trip, in 1985, when I was flying to Chile, we had a stopover in Recife and on descending the aircraft steps I knelt down and kissed the ground. An intuitive act, a homage to the footballing heroes of my childhood, Pelé and Garrincha. I don’t do it any more, kiss the ground that is, but I feel a powerful yearning, and mentally have already been there for some time.

Best wishes,

Fredrik

Glemmingebro, 11 June

Dear Fredrik,

At about the time you got off the plane in Rio de Janeiro I was at a parents’ get-together for my eldest daughter’s class, on the beach a few kilometres from here, where we first barbecued some sausages we had brought along, then played rounders: the third class against parents, with the shadows lengthening under the light of the setting sun. My plan was to write to you after the children had gone to bed, at around nine, but I was in the US just a few days ago and I still have jet lag; at half past eight I fell asleep fully clothed, with all the kids around me, and didn’t wake up until half past one at night, surrounded by silence. Plan B was to write this morning. I had organised a nanny, as the Swedes call them here now, to come and take care of our four-month-old daughter while I was writing. Anne – that’s our youngest daughter’s name – is usually cheery and happy and never causes any trouble – she goes to sleep at half past eight and wakes up at six or half past – but today of all days, when I had to find time to write, she was screaming like a banshee. The nanny couldn’t handle her, so I had to do it, calm her down first, then feed her and change her nappies – and when I handed her over, what happened? Another fit, she screamed so much her face went puce and tears rolled. I took over again, and when she was calm the nanny put her in the buggy. They are still out walking, in the summer drizzle. And I am writing at last.

From the letter you wrote yesterday I have drawn the obvious conclusion: you are a romantic. At least your writing felt romantic to me. Studies in Paris with Foucault and Derrida, meeting young South Americans – it reminds me of what Paris was for Latin American writers, especially Cortázar, who was exiled there for many years and who wrote some of the most fantastic stories I have ever read. Your words awaken a longing in me to be there and a sense that it is too late, I have missed the bus, all of the buses. But you were there. And your first book was accepted – that is also romantic, the young author in Paris. I, on the other hand, am a Protestant deep into my bones. I am the kind to deny myself things, to tell myself no, and if I like to read about wild, exuberant, extrovert, high-spirited lifestyles around the world, where energy is of the human variety, not material or financial, this is not a world I can inhabit, I can barely stand it, I turn away, long to be alone, I don’t know how to relate to all this generosity and warmth.

Why am I writing this?

You have guessed correctly. Brazil is not for me. Nor is Brazilian life, which, granted, I have never experienced and only know through descriptions. Nor Brazilian football. During the 2002 World Cup in Korea and Japan, when Germany met Brazil, I supported Germany. I have never done that before and will probably never do so again. But it was the lesser of two evils. I watched the match with my brother, at a bar in Stockholm, and when Brazil scored he leaned forward and pointedly clapped in front of me, as if to say, you are so wrong, don’t you see?

Not supporting Brazil, distancing myself from Brazilian football, is a bit like saying I prefer ugly to beautiful women. If I can choose I always pick the ugliest girl. Or, to take another example, and not one which will immediately be interpreted as sexist – it is like saying I prefer reading bad books to good ones.

It hasn’t always been like this. When I was young I wanted to venture out into the world, I wanted to see, smell, hear and taste everything. I wanted life. I had visions of travelling down through Europe, doing odd jobs on the way, being abroad for many years while I wrote the Great Novel. I wanted to meet people, have adventures, fall in love, get drunk and affirm life. It didn’t happen, I never went, instead I stayed in Bergen – never Paris, like you, nor South America – and set out on a slow, life-denying process, which has culminated here in a tiny rural village in Sweden, where I live, hardly meeting anyone and with no social life whatsoever (yesterday, at the parents’ get-together, I didn’t talk to anyone). I barely ever drink, and I eat very little, I am not interested in food at all. I have a constant guilty conscience because I work too little – it is not good to do nothing at all, just loaf around.

Thus your letter, which is all about youth and life, evokes strong yearnings in me. But I have missed the bus, and in the football World Cup, which starts tomorrow, I have strong sympathies for two teams, as always: Argentina and Italy. Both are traditionally cynical teams, as you know, which in their best years were always extremely well organised defensively and played on their opponents’ weaknesses rather than their own strengths. They possess extreme qualities, but there is something about their never using them in an excessive manner, about their never doing anything beautiful for the sake of beauty, only if there is some outcome. And the fact that they can do so, but hold back, appeals to something deep inside me.

The first televised images I can remember are from the summer of 1978, the World Cup in Argentina. The sea of spectators in the stands, the confetti-strewn grass pitch, Ricardo Villa, Osvaldo Ardiles, Mario Kempes. I knew nothing about the political situation, of course, I was nine years old, but I was spellbound. Argentina, both the country and the team, represented an adventure for me. Later the adventure grew because I read Borges, I read Cortázar – and I am reading Cesar Aira now – and I read the exiled Polish author Witold Gombrowicz. (His diaries are brilliant, they were written in Argentina, and when he goes to Paris at the end, to the Old World, it is as though his diaries die, they lose all their vitality, all their power – did they come from his exile in Buenos Aires?) There is a lot of romanticism in this, but it is a different kind from the romanticism I see in you and your letter – for the simple reason that the Brazil you affirm is a physical entity in your life; you have been to Brazil countless times, you have friends there, and you have intimate knowledge of the culture – you know the language, you have translated Brazilian literature into Swedish – and you play football like a Brazilian. That above all else! For you Brazil is life lived, it is alive. Argentina for me? I have never been there, it is no more than a dream, fantasies, anchored nowhere else but in the books I have read. It is the opposite of lived, the opposite of alive, it is non-life, which in its extreme form is life-denying – and that was why the working title of my last novel, which came to be called Min Kamp, was for a long time Argentina.

Tomorrow the World Cup starts. I am happy. I remember all the world championships from 1978, what I was doing, how I was living, who I was and the world in which the contests existed. But I have always watched them on TV, never in reality, and I would like to continue doing this – so that is the basis for this book, isn’t it? Life versus death, yes versus no, Brazil versus Argentina.

All the best,

Karl Ove

Rua Assunção 174, Botafogo, Rio, 11 June

Dear Karl Ove,

I’ve landed now. It’s so dreamlike, this world of airports and planes. The sense of alienation in the departure halls, everyone transformed into mere bodies, like large lumps of meat in suits and dresses. And almost everybody with such closed faces. How did it become the norm to take your seat before a transatlantic flight without so much as a hello to your closest fellow passengers?

On the plane I read Rubens Figueiredo, an author from Rio who writes fantastic short stories set in surreal jungle landscapes. Afterwards I anaesthetised myself with a whisky, followed by three glasses of red wine and a sleeping pill. Woke up refreshed and then, only then – after ten hours this is – did I speak to the woman sitting next to me, a lady in her forties from Rio. One word, Karl Ove, a little knock on an unfamiliar door, and then the world opens up. I avoid this type of contact all too often but I do love it. She worked as a beautician, had her own salon in Rio and had just been to Moscow and Vienna with two colleagues. Suddenly she’s showing me photos of her son, a twenty-year-old young pro at Cagliari. Then she went on to describe herself as a flamenguista doente (a fanatical Flamengo supporter) and laughed, and when I said I was going to stay in Botafogo she suggested I share a taxi with her friend Patricia, which I did, and thus ended up engaged in intense conversation with another beauty-salon proprietor as our taxi sped through the Rio morning, through the bleak, poor, northern part of the city, wet and grey under heavy rainclouds, on a motorway where balas perdidas (stray bullets) are never far from your mind on account of the two gangs with territory on either side of the road, who are at constant war with one another, and it’s said that people in passing cars have been hit by bullets. Innocent people die this way every year in Rio: sleeping at home, making love in a luxury hotel, mothers on their way to kindergarten or taxi drivers just doing their job.

That thought is never far from my mind here: sudden death.

They dropped me off by a rusty iron gate at Rua Assunção 174, where my bleary-eyed host – it was seven in the morning when I arrived – was there to welcome me. His name is Afonso Machado, a musician by trade, a guitarist who’s played with many of the greats, including Chico Buarque and Elza Soares. I have my own room in Afonso’s old house, which is enclosed by the jungle, a rock face, other houses and some blocks of flats.

Now I’m ensconced in my own world: a little library, TV, CD player, my own books and a printer. What bliss it is, come what may, to create your own world and workspace. That’s where I’m writing to you from, and looking out of the open window I can see a patch of sky, two high-rises and every ten minutes an internal flight coming in to land. This is also historic ground in the footballing sense, because only a few hundred metres from where I am sitting is Fluminense’s old stadium, with its chateau-like facade, and it was on this pitch that Brazil became South American champions for the first time in 1919, with a goal in extra time by Arthur Friedenreich, the Afro-Brazilian who wanted to be white.

I hit it off with Afonso right away, he has a twinkle in his eye, a ready smile on his lips, a warm charm coupled with, like so many people here, a Rio-ish, listless, casual quality, not ironic nor affected but quite natural. He laid on breakfast, and after a few minutes we ended up where you usually end up here, in the world of football. He is Botafogo. That’s what they say. You are your team, you aren’t content with merely supporting them. And it wasn’t long before we were talking about Garrincha, Botafogo’s best player ever. I told him about the film Lasse Westman and I made about Garrincha’s Swedish son, Ulf Lindberg. Afonso told me that he’d toured with Elza Soares, who’d been in a tempestuous relationship with Garrincha for many years, and about her voice, about how incredible he thought it was, and still is. And then he told me, between mouthfuls, that his father used to take him to the Maracanã Stadium when he was a little boy to see Botafogo, and that he’d been there that day in 1962 when Botafogo beat Flamengo 3–0 in front of 160,000 spectators, in the final of the Rio State Championship, possibly Garrincha’s best game ever, certainly on a par with the one in the group stages in 1958 between Brazil and the Soviet Union in Ullevi.

Yes, it’s true what you wrote, that at a certain age we’re extremely receptive to new impressions and they never leave us. The first World Cup to seep into your pores was in 1978, hence your love for Argentina. My first World Cup was in 1970, when Pelé was at the height of his career and Brazil, according to many, had the best national team that has ever existed. But, and this is an important but, I shy away from your dichotomisation, your either-or, having to be one thing or the other when often we realise – or at least I do! – we are both. When I was twelve, England won the World Cup with players like Bobby Charlton, Bobby Moore, Nobby Stiles and Alan Ball. Players I would take to my heart, not least Moore, whom I thought so manly and handsome and therefore – or so I imagined at the time – also skilful. I loved the total football of the Dutch: Cruyff and Neeskens were emissaries from a new world. I have a mental index of great German football players I admire (Seeler, Beckenbauer, Netzer, Rummenigge, Littbarski and Hässler, for example) and I also liked the Argentinian team that won in 1978, especially Kempes, that force of nature, and the way he raced forward through the blizzard of confetti, no one able to stop him, and Maradona, Karl Ove, oh my God! There’s no other football player – with the exception of Garrincha – I’ve revered more than el pibe de oro. One of the highpoints in my life was meeting him in Florence in 1990, after that game in the last sixteen between Argentina and Brazil, which he effectively sealed with that miraculous dribble from midfield before releasing the ball to Caniggia. I was sitting in the front row at the post-match press conference, completely in thrall: the intelligent eyes, the quick replies and the modesty he displayed towards their crushed opponents. As the press conference ends, he gets to his feet, and then, suddenly, I hear myself say, Diego, por favor! Whereupon he, who was so abhorred and traduced in Italy, turns, walks over and signs his autograph in the notepad I’m holding out. And at the same instant the two-hundred-strong crowd of sports journalists all undergo the same transformation as me: they revert to being little boys and storm the podium, allowing me to sneak away with my precious, later to be framed, prize. By all means, let’s keep some sort of football debate alive, but then surely Brazil–Italy or Brazil–England/Germany are better suited as opposite poles, and the match in Barcelona in 1982 (Italy–Brazil, 3–2) must certainly have embodied this contrast between ‘the Brazilian style of play’ (whatever that may be) and ‘the Italian’ (whatever that is).

Tonight I’m having dinner with Afonso somewhere here in Botafogo, and that brings to mind what you wrote about food, drink and women, and I can’t help but experience a tinge of sadness when I think about it since it’s so at odds with how I perceive these things: I love food and drink, and sometimes feel, at a heaving table in the company of good friends, or at a steakhouse like Porcão here in Rio (all you can eat for a set price), that I’m not human, I want to become one with what I eat, an internal rapture takes hold of me (at home Marianne and the kids are in the habit of pointing out that I make a sort of low humming sound to myself when I’m in that state), which is also the case with wine, beer and spirits, I keep trying to go further and further, into something else, something greater – something Dionysian? And what you wrote about women, I don’t understand that either. Or rather I understand, but for me it’s the opposite. When a beautiful woman enters the room I feel an electric current pass through me, it happens often and it isn’t Jorge Amado’s desire to bed all the women in the world, but some sort of beauty worship, the fleeting joy at being privileged enough to partake in the mystery of beauty. Since that kind of thing was already taboo, in the Protestant sense, then in the Maoist (read: hyper-Protestant) 1970s I could sometimes find myself, on impulse, fighting all manifestations of Eros within, wanting to be castrated and transformed into an utterly asexual and enlightened being in which all human activity was reduced to reasoning and dialectics. God help us!

I’m signing off for the day. Copacabana is next on the list. Hopefully a game of beach football with old friends, but a dip in the ocean at the very least, followed by one, or maybe two, caipirinha(s).

Best wishes,

Fredrik

Glemmingebro, 12 June

Dear Fredrik,

I have been interested in football for as long as I can remember. Some of my very first memories are about football, I was perhaps five years old, or six, and we played in the fields near where we lived, sometimes there would be throngs of kids, sometimes only two or three, but it was one activity we did which filled us with joy: a ball, a pitch and two jackets as a goal. Oh, the shouts that rang out through the evening air, the ball, heavy and slippery or dry and light with the bladder showing between the leather laces, the constant excitement, and the disappointment when the first boys began to go home and the teams had to be shuffled, perhaps only two against two until that no longer worked, either because it was too dark or the last diehards had slunk off home. Autumn in the rain, winter in the snow, spring in the mud, summer in the heat: football, football, football. On the tarmac outside the house, on the gently sloping meadow, on the plateau behind the mountain, down towards the sea, on the field of hard-trampled earth in the forest. I remember once a tournament was organised, anyone could sign up a team and all of us living in the same road did. That excitement. We cycled a few kilometres to get there, and we had team kit (T-shirts all more or less the same colour), and we played on a proper pitch against a proper team. It is one of the strongest childhood memories I have, that day. I think, if I am honest with myself and view the various stages of my life democratically, with equal rights to each, that day, when we scraped together a team and played the whole tournament, is one of the greatest times of my life. I was in goal, I wanted to be a keeper then, I could only hurl myself to one side, to the left, but when I was seven and began to play team football (for the juniors in Trauma – a name all my mother’s psychiatric nurse colleagues laughed at when they saw it on the back of our track suits), there was already a keeper and I played out of goal. We trained twice a week, I remember, and we had a match every week in the season. Not only that, we played at home in the evenings, and in every single break at school. The team I played for had five or six talented players, we used to win our games by large margins, often double figures, and I think we won the league every year I was in the team – which means until we moved, when I was thirteen. We took part in the Norway Cup in the summers, reaching the last sixteen one year, where we met Tromsø, and all their players were a head taller than us. I played in midfield and was not one of the better footballers, even though I longed to be and could spend hours and hours banging a ball against an enormous wall during those endless, lazy, boring summer days, or sneak onto a grass pitch with a friend and take penalties for hours on end, but that was never the real point, that wasn’t why I played football, it was because it was always, without fail, fun. It was never boring. It was always exciting. And perhaps, I think now, everything else lost importance, that was the point, you did something together, everyone was in on it, no one was excluded, and you disappeared inside yourself. Playing football was like being somewhere, it was like your own world inside a world, with its own rules, where I was happy. Yes, for Christ’s sake, that was what it was all about: happiness. Being somewhere else apart from inside yourself. This continued right up to the age of sixteen. Then I began to have other ideas about myself, and not being good at football suddenly got in the way, I was listening to British post-punk, music was immeasurably important, and I could only have justified continuing to play if I was really good, then it would have been possible to continue with dignity, but I wasn’t, and I stopped. At the same time I started drinking and found something similar in alcohol: a world inside a world where other rules applied and where you could disappear from yourself. But I didn’t stop watching football. My teams were IK Start in Norway, Liverpool in England and, every fourth year, in the World Cup, as I said, Italy and Argentina.

At that time, in the 70s, football wasn’t as commercial as it is now, it wasn’t as big, it wasn’t something everyone did or followed. In my class there were perhaps five boys who got involved. There was hardly any football on TV – there was the pools match every Saturday, from the English First Division, and then there was the FA Cup in May, a big day, and then the two finals of the European Cup and the Cup Winners’ Cup, also in May. In addition, there were the Norwegian international games. I grew up in a football family. My paternal grandfather, who lived in Kristiansand, cycled to the stadium every other Sunday and watched IK Start’s home matches. I remember the excitement, the street down from our house was full of fans as kick-off approached, and again when the whistle had blown for full time, and you could always tell how the game had gone by Grandad’s face. He used to talk disparagingly about the team, they were bad, but that was mostly a way of speaking because the next Sunday, there he was, on his bike, presumably hope sprang eternal. We were there because my dad used to watch the home games as well, and in time my brother and I joined him. Going to football matches was one of the few things my brother and I did with our father, and it was one of the few things we did as a family with many others. I still get shivers down my spine when I hear the roar from a stadium. IK Start won the league for the first time in 1978, I suppose I must have seen some of the games, but don’t remember any. However, I do remember my dad driving into Kristiansand in midweek once, it must have been the year after, in 1979, because they were playing Eintracht Frankfurt in the UEFA Cup. This was a big experience for my father, a German team in Kristiansand Stadium. We went to several away games, I remember only a few of them, sitting in the car almost all morning, sitting in the opponents’ stadium for two hours, then the long trip home, in the darkness. I recall a match against Mjøndalen, or the brown shirts as they were called, rather inappropriately. In 1980 I was at Kristiansand Stadium when Start won the league for the second time and we invaded the pitch. Afterwards I stood cheering the team from beneath the changing room, they came out and threw their shirts down, I grabbed one, Svein Mathisen’s, but a grown man tore it out of my hands. Oh, the names of these players, they bring back a whole world: Svein Mathisen, Helge Skuseth, Reidar Flaa, Trond Petersen, Roy Amundsen, Steinar Aase. I read football magazines, I read all the sports pages in the papers after games, I watched all the televised football there was. The fact that there wasn’t much was probably part of the joy. Seeing the likes of AC Milan or Real Madrid or Bayern München was such a rarity that it felt like a gift, a moment of grace. In a world where everything really did revolve around football the World Cup was truly exceptional. Matches every day, many of them with players I had only read about. The first World Cup I was big enough to take in … was that 1982? France then, with Roucheteau on the wing, the classic long-haired mazy winger, do you remember him, Fredrik? The match against Germany. I still maintain it is the best game I have ever seen. I grieved for days afterwards; in fact, ‘grief’ is the only word that covers, to any satisfactory degree, the emotions I felt. And isn’t it incredible that the same World Cup also had Zico and Socrates for Brazil, and Paulo Rossi for Italy? For me there are three separate realities which I keep, each in their own compartment, in the weft of my memories. The matches, they are there, but also the whole world I watched them from. In 1998 I remember Argentina v. England and my first novel coming out, but also, somehow partitioned off from everything else, Brazil v. Norway, the penalty kick in the final minutes which I couldn’t watch, my brother’s strangulated voice on the phone afterwards because we had beaten Brazil to take the second qualifying place. I saw the game in Molde, and in the streets afterwards everyone was hugging everyone else, friends and strangers alike. The 2002 World Cup, when Italy were robbed by the referee, I watched the game in Stockholm, in an Italian coffee bar and was more in love than I had ever been – it was the time matches were broadcast in the morning. We lay in bed watching football. Sweden v. Argentina, then the game when Sweden were knocked out, after Anders Svensson turned past a defender in the box and shot against the post. The 2006 World Cup, we had two children then and the final with them in a Bergen hotel room, outside it was dark, lightning flashed, I seem to remember, and Zidane, whose every move was a joy to behold, he has to be one of the greatest European players ever, headbutted Materazzi. And then Spain in the last World Cup, which we saw here, we had rented a house, went swimming in the morning, were shown round houses afterwards – and at length we bought this house! – in the evening we saw two games. It was a perfect summer, as all World Cup summers are.

Thank you for your letter. I didn’t get it until late in the day and read it in bed before going to sleep, with a slight blush on the cheeks because it deals with reality while mine didn’t. I wrote about theories, which I examined closely and caricatured, and actually I was quite happy with my efforts, I reached the point where everything hung between life and death, yes and no, all or nothing. Your letter kindly corrected this, not by making a comment but being an example of something else – to wit, complexity. This often happens to me, I write something which sounds good enough, only to realise, after an hour to several years later, that it is never like that, never so simple, never one thing or the other. This is actually a question of distance and is a fundamental literary issue, I think: writing establishes a distance to what you are writing, and distance simplifies. Form simplifies even further. If you consider literature an autonomous entity it is no problem, then it has no responsibility for what it represents. If, however, you want to write about life, simplification is a great danger, which you must constantly guard against. You do that by going as close as you can to where all the broad sweeps, all the higher-level generalisations, no longer apply and are nowhere apparent. For me, the way I see it, this is the task of literature. Not necessarily in the form of realism and description of reality, but as a stubborn, tireless insistence on, and search for, the disintegration of the structure of that which we know. In life things look different, there it is almost the opposite, simplification and generalisation are necessary, they constitute the framework for the everyday and for life with others, the absence of which would make everything chaotic and confusing. This is abstract, I know, just an idea I have had, maybe even an idée fixe, but it is based on experience, and of a quite specific kind: Linda, my wife, is bipolar and during those periods in her life when the inherent mood swings are not held in check it is as though her personality is in flux, from down, where everything is mute and silent, immovable and impossible, to up, where everything is open, movable, possible, life-affirming, and all the levels imaginable between the extremes. So life at home has been about seeking stability, rules, fixed repeatable patterns – routines have been a way through the chaos and confusion, and this has worked well, we are fine, all of us. But a person you know so well, the way you can only know someone you have lived with for many years, suddenly changing, being in flux, makes me wonder what personality really is, what character really is. I am used to regarding it as something fixed, a core, unchanging. With some variation of course – we all know a man or a woman who gets a new lease of life and starts doing different, previously alien, things – yet is still recognisable and relatively together. On reflection, there is not much I don’t know about my friends, most I have a clear picture of – he is like this, she is like that – and it is within this simplification I socialise with them. The distance such generalisations create is necessary for social life to function. That is why we almost never lay bare our souls, and if it happens – as it does now and then, there is always someone who cannot stay within reasonable limits – it is unpleasant, unbearable, a burden to us, and then it is a relief to get away. In literature it is the opposite: there it is precisely the breaches we look for, both as a writer and a reader. There it is the disintegration that is important. It is as though it is a pragmatic truth which we live by, and thus an essential truth which perhaps we know, perhaps we don’t, but which we seldom deal with. It appears in crises, when someone dies, when someone is born, when someone falls in love, when all the rules, all the limits are lifted in one fell swoop.

I hope you’re well over there, Fredrik – live a little for me too!

All the best,

Karl Ove