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How to Choose a Partner

How to Choose a Partner

The School of Life

Susan Quilliam



We don’t have all the answers—but we can help you choose a partner.

Choosing a romantic partner is one of contemporary life’s biggest adventures. But other aspects of modern living—being globally more mobile, a fall in religious belief, social liberalization, and more job opportunities (but longer working hours)—mean relationships have rarely been so challenging, and so important.

In How to Choose a Partner, Susan Quilliam guides us through the process of finding the right partner for us as individuals. The real challenge is that we grow. Drawing upon rich cultural material, psychology, and her background in relationship therapy, Susan presents partner choice as a journey toward self-development, driving us to learn more about ourselves, about other people, and about life and the way we want to live.

1. Understanding


When you make a choice, you change the future.

(Deepak Chopra)

Choosing a romantic partner is one of contemporary life’s biggest adventures....

Praise for How to Choose a Partner

“Self-help books for the rest of us.”—The New York Times

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Susan Quilliam

SUSAN QUILLIAM has worked as a relationship psychologist, coach and agony aunt for over thirty years. She is the author of twenty-one books, including Joy of Sex (updated for the twenty-first century) and is a regular media expert on the subject of sex and relationships.

Susan Quilliam


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