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Macmillan Childrens Publishing Group

Warrior's Creed

A Life of Preparing for and Facing the Impossible

Roger Sparks with Don Rearden

St. Martin's Press




I dream of fighting to the death … and as the dream progresses I grow accustomed to the idea of death and become comfortable with it.


A series of muffled thumps pulled me from my sleep. I was eleven or twelve, probably dreaming at that moment of big air on my bike. Perhaps soaring off a jump and flying several car lengths, and as high as a school bus. Half awake, I realized someone was in the garage, going through our stuff. The crashing and rummaging drew closer. I could hear movement in the dividing room between our kitchen and living room. I sat up.

An intruder was in our house and rummaging through our belongings. No doubt after drugs and cash.

I heard my dad rise from his bed.

Footsteps outside my door. Rushing.

Hollow thuds against the wall.

Then the terrified voice of a strange man and followed by his screams. Panicked screams.

I knew better than to go running out, so I cracked open the door to my room. Just enough to see.

Wearing only boxers and holding a police baton in one hand, my dad dragged the burgler behind him back into our house. He threw the stranger on the floor, and brought the baton down against the man’s shoulders with a sickening whack. Then hit him again.

My dad was a very formidable man. I was a child and naturally impressionable, but my father was powerful looking to me. He always worked out. He was Tommy Chong, from Cheech & Chong, the guy with the glasses, but yoked up, and muscle-bound, as if he did CrossFit for a living. The man standing in front of me with the baton possessed animalistic strength, and I was witnessing his power firsthand.

He looked up, saw me peering out from my door, and very calmly said, “Son, stay in your room. I’m handling this.”

I closed my door and went back to my bed and listened. I had little choice.

Dad kept the man out there for a couple of hours, beating him and talking to him in this calm voice.

I can only describe what I heard as vicious.

* * *

The guy would lose consciousness, and when he came to, my dad would beat him again, but this time in a way that wouldn’t let him pass out. I could hear him talk to the stranger about what was going to happen to his friends and his family.

I fell asleep by the time my dad loaded the man up in our VW Microbus and went and dumped him in the creek down our long street.

In the morning, I awoke to find bloodstains all over the carpet.

In the coming days there were homicides likely related to that night. I have no doubt my dad and his buddies hunted down some of the man’s friends and family. He wasn’t going to turn the guy in to the cops. My dad and his associates were always working in the shadows of the law. He visited all that violence on the intruder and the others involved as another sort of justice. He was going to force them to remember what they did at our house, but in a very horrible way.

With my dad, fighting and violence were right on the periphery. And from his perspective, you had to be fully capable of dealing with that violence. I was always learning from my dad, and the message I took away from that night was simple. Be ready for absolutely anything life throws at you in any given moment.

Growing up with this way of thinking affects me still. To this day, I’ll work out until I’m almost throwing up. I don’t know too many people in their forties who, every morning, work out in such a manner.

I learned from my dad early on to live this way. If a monster, right now, might break in to try to rape my wife and hurt my kids, I should be able to solve that situation through sheer will. Even if I have been mortally wounded, I feel like I should be able to project whatever violence is visited on me, right back—and in a very extreme way.

* * *

I grew up in a modest gray ranch house in a suburb of Dallas–Fort Worth. The exterior didn’t match the interior, you could say. A cookie-cutter neighborhood. Short metal fences. Kept-up lawns. Tiny little front and back yards. An elementary school right across the street. And in our garage, my dad’s Harley. Inside there was likely heroin, cocaine, weed, and weapons.

My dad was known as Big Roger. I was Little Roger. That’s how the name game seemed to work in our world.

Big this. Little that.

Violence was part and parcel of life in our house, and my early exposures to violence came from being around my dad. I was with him once on the road, and we stopped in our VW to refuel. While he pumped gas this weird trucker walked up to him and started talking shit. I couldn’t really tell what they were saying, but I sensed my father’s anger.

Big Roger finished refilling, put the nozzle back in the pump, walked over, and dropped the guy with a single punch. Then, like it was nothing, my dad went inside and paid.

When he came out I asked, “What was that about, Dad?”

As he turned the key and we pulled away, he said, “We just had a slight altercation. No big deal.”

There was another instance that stands out from my early youth. I was maybe eight years old and having a sleepover with a friend at the house. My mom came out of her room, all gussied up. As she left, I could somehow sense or smell the stress hanging about her. Then my dad headed out not long after her. He wore his leather Harley patrol jacket and his leather pants. He had his nightstick and an SS Luger on his hip.

There’s that song Willie Nelson and Merle Haggard recorded about Pancho and Lefty, where Pancho always “wore his gun outside his pants, for all the honest world to feel.” Every time I hear that song, I think of my dad. That pistol was there for the people of the world to feel him. He would ride around with it, for all to see. Definitely a junkyard dog.

I didn’t know it then, but even at that age, elements of warrior culture were being instilled in my mind. The intruder and the trucker had crossed the lines of respect. In the case of this night, the lesson was about both respect and loyalty. It turns out an associate of sorts made the misstep of hitting on my mom. The guy was really disrespecting my father with his behavior. That was the line the man had crossed, and he would pay.

One time our neighbor’s cat bit my sister’s hand. I was around six at the time; she was a couple years older. I don’t know why it was such a big deal, but I sensed my mom’s stress over this. She waited for my dad to get home, to see if she should take her in to the emergency room for a tetanus shot.

It was always a grand arrival when my dad got home. He would ride up into the garage, his Harley rumbling. I would yell, “Dad’s home!” When I heard that chest-shaking motor purring, I’d take off at a sprint for him. His return always marked one of the highlights of an afternoon. I enjoyed this race to greet him so much, but on this day Mom reached him first and told him about the cat. He headed into the house and came out with a can of opened tuna fish.

I’d been down the street. I raced up on my bike in time to see him swing his baton. Whack! The cat made one quick spin of fury, claws scratching the concrete, and went limp. He picked up the dead cat, carried it over to the neighbors, and shoved it into their mailbox. He started toward our house, then stopped. He returned to the mailbox, lifted the small metal red flag, and walked home.

That was the way my father handled life. An eye for an eye, of sorts. The fact that he would have to take my sister to the doctor’s office and pay a couple hundred bucks pissed him off. In his mind, the neighbors and their damn cat had crossed the line.

There you go.

I look back and realize how smitten I was with my dad all the time. As a kid, dirt bikes and BMX racing gave me a sense of freedom. Ever since I was little, I was really into working on my bikes. My dad and his buddies would tinker on their motorcycles in the garage, listening to Steppenwolf on an old record player and smoking weed. My dad built me my own little workbench, but he wasn’t bullshitting with a kid’s pair of pliers for me to work on my bike. I had real tools. I would completely disassemble the entire bicycle, down to the pedals, and put it back together. My father was always turning wrenches, and I was his helper. I possessed a rare skill at that age. I could look at a nut or bolt and know instantly whether it was standard or metric, and the exact-size wrench or socket needed. Just by sight.

I loved to hang out there with my dad and his friends. The bikers were mostly Vietnam vets; without knowing it, they romanticized my notion of brotherhood. I grew up in that world, so it wasn’t a contrived thing; this was more of a very sincere culture that chose to be disenfranchised from mainstream society. They lived a life that they felt was more truthful. Of course living outside of the law, with drugs and criminal activity, is destructive to our society, but these men who I grew up around had significant character. They had values they lived by, but those values were not the norm of what America was at the time.

I spent countless hours around these men and their stories, and witnessed a certain amount of violence. But also I think, more important, I grew up around a very structured set of principles. The way they lived was very real and tangible, and to be around this culture of men who had been warriors for our country in Vietnam, and had returned to become warriors of a different cloth, had a lasting impression on me.

I fondly remember sitting on my father’s motorcycle. When I was really young I struggled to climb up on the tall metal horse. Once, carelessly, I touched the inside of my leg to the exhaust pipe. In that instant a doughnut-size patch of my skin sizzled like a piece of bacon on a hot skillet. I’d burned the soft young flesh of my leg on that hot steel.

This might have my first experience learning to swallow swords. The white-hot pain hurt worse than anything I’d felt up to that point in my life, but I bit my lip. I didn’t cry out. I was worried. I worried he would think I’d shown my incompetence around his motorcycle, a machine so intimate to him. I told myself, You can’t let Dad know this happened.

I melted the inside of my leg but didn’t say a word.

Copyright © 2019 by Roger Sparks with Don Rearden