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Singled Out

How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

St. Martin's Griffin

"Singled Out debunks myths and stereotypes about single people and lays the groundwork for social, political, and economic change."
-- Thomas F. Coleman, Executive Director, Unmarried America Drawing from decades of scientific research and stacks of stories from the front lines of singlehood, Bella DePaulo debunks the myths of singledom---and shows that just about everything you’ve heard about the benefits of getting married and the perils of staying single are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong. Although singles are singled out for unfair treatment by the workplace, the marketplace, and the federal tax structure, they are not simply victims of this singlism--single people really are living happily ever after. Singled Out Debunks Ten Myths of Singlehood, Including:
-Myth--The Dark Aura of Singlehood: You are miserable and lonely and your life is tragic.
-Myth--Attention, Single Women: Your work won’t love you back and your eggs will dry up. Also, you don’t get any and you’re promiscuous.
-Myth--Attention, Single Men: You are horny, slovenly, and irresponsible, and you are the scary criminals. Or you are sexy, fastidious, frivolous, and gay. “Elegant analysis, wonderfully detailed examples, and clear and witty prose…A must-read for all single adults, their friends and families, as well as social scientists and policy advocates.”
--E. Kay Trimberger, author of The New Single Woman
 
“The singles movement is coming to a bookstore near you.”
--Associated Press
 
“Fascinating  . .this book could hardly have come at a better time. As much as societal adulation of the couple discriminates against single people, Singled Out suggests that it can also undermine marriage.”
--The Christian Science Monitor

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Singled Out
CHAPTER ONESinglism: The Twenty-First-Century Problem That Has No NameI think married people should be treated fairly. They should not be stereotyped, stigmatized, discriminated against, or ignored. They deserve every bit as much respect as single people do.I can imagine a world in which married people were not treated appropriately, and if that world ever materialized, I would protest. Here are a few examples of what I would find offensive:When you tell people you are married, they tilt their heads and say things like "Aaaawww" or "Don't worry, honey, your turn to divorce will

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REVIEWS

Praise for Singled Out

"Singled Out" may be the single most important book you buy this year."
--Bookworm Sez
 
"Gleefully debunks a number of sad-sack "facts." According to DePaulo's myth-busting research, [singles] are every bit as happy, healthy, and long-lived as couples."
--Seattle Metropolitan
 
"If you're sick of your family asking, "So when are you gonna settle down?" or your boss saddling you with a fatter workload than your married coworkers, you will love Dr. Bella DePaulo's insightful, irreverent book."
--Michelle Goodman, author of The Anti 9-to-5 Guide
 
"An engaging new book that brims with invigorating wit and unparalleled perspective."
--Tucson Citizen
 
"Intriguing cultural study . . .DePaulo has given this complicated subject the attention and respect it deserves."
--Publisher's Weekly
 
"DePaulo dismantles [a few other] claims of the pro-marriage lobby."
--Time Magazine
 
"Don't miss Bella DePaulo's Singled Out."
--Sasha Cagen, author of QuirkyAlone
 
"She has a message for singles and couples alike: If you forget about your nonromantic relationships, you're missing out on a whole lot of love."
--Santa Barbara News-Press
 
"An expose of the widespread cultural bias facing unmarried adults in America."
--Harvard Magazine
 
"[A] terrific book"
--Amy Alkon, Syndicated Advice Columnist
 
"A masterpiece…filled with inspirational quotes…Every single should read this book"
--Yuspie (Young Urban Single Professionals of Indiana) Book Club
 
"[Shows that singles] can be as productive, charming, fun, moral, and wise as their coupled counterparts"
--Virginia Quarterly Review
 
"DePaulo combines her training as a social psychologist with wit and sharp analysis, bringing the entire "marriage is better" argument down like a house of cards."
--Windy City Times
 
"Singled Out" may be the single most important book you buy this year."
--Bookworm Sez
 
"Gleefully debunks a number of sad-sack "facts." According to DePaulo's myth-busting research, [singles] are every bit as happy, healthy, and long-lived as couples."
--Seattle Metropolitan
 
"If you're sick of your family asking, "So when are you gonna settle down?" or your boss saddling you with a fatter workload than your married coworkers, you will love Dr. Bella DePaulo's insightful, irreverent book."
--Michelle Goodman, author of The Anti 9-to-5 Guide
 
"An engaging new book that brims with invigorating wit and unparalleled perspective."
--Tucson Citizen
 
"Intriguing cultural study . . .DePaulo has given this complicated subject the attention and respect it deserves."
--Publisher's Weekly
 
"DePaulo dismantles [a few other] claims of the pro-marriage lobby."
--Time Magazine
 
"Don't miss Bella DePaulo's Singled Out."
--Sasha Cagen, author of QuirkyAlone
 
"She has a message for singles and couples alike: If you forget about your nonromantic relationships, you're missing out on a whole lot of love."
--Santa Barbara News-Press
 
"An expose of the widespread cultural bias facing unmarried adults in America."
--Harvard Magazine
 
"[A] terrific book"
--Amy Alkon, Syndicated Advice Columnist
 
"A masterpiece…filled with inspirational quotes…Every single should read this book"
--Yuspie (Young Urban Single Professionals of Indiana) Book Club
 
"[Shows that singles] can be as productive, charming, fun, moral, and wise as their coupled counterparts"
--Virginia Quarterly Review
 
"DePaulo combines her training as a social psychologist with wit and sharp analysis, bringing the entire "marriage is better" argument down like a house of cards."
--Windy City Times
 

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

  • BELLA DEPAULO, Ph.D., is a social psychologist who did her graduate work at Harvard. She is currently a visiting professor at the University of California at Santa Barbara. DePaulo is single and living happily ever after in Summerland, California.
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How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

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