Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do? Thoughts on Living Deliberately

Brian McNaught

Stonewall Inn Editions



Trade Paperback

224 Pages



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For many gay men and lesbian women, the first step in a long journey is acknowledging and accepting their sexuality. But what happens to those men and women after they have come to terms with this aspect of their lives? For many it may mean a complete reevaluation of very basic issues: family, relationships, community, and love.

In this series of essays, McNaught explores these various aspects of life that may now be called into question for these men and women, and he sets out to educate and help guide them through the challenges they may encounter.

Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do? solidifies McNaught's place as one of the best-known speakers on the issues that face gays and lesbians.


Praise for Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do?

"Getting there may be half the battle, but until now no one has really addressed what we should do once we've arrived. McNaught, one of our most prominent sexuality educators, comes to our rescue with the practical primer that's both informative and fun to read."—The Advocate

"If you ever felt that you didn't quite fit in, weren't gay in the right way, had concerns that you didn't hear other gay or lesbian people talking about, this courageous personal account of a journey to self will give you a perspective that you are not likely to find elsewhere."—Betty Berzon, author of The Intimacy Dance

"This is a heart warming and life-affirming first-person account that will tempt you to sit back and enjoy being gay."—Gay Chicago

"McNaught captures a degree of sophistication missed by many other modern writers of the gay experience."—LGNY

"What makes McNaught's book superior . . . is its humility, its personal honesty, its freedom from negative criticism, and its ability to make the reader feel affirmed and hopeful."—Armand Cerbone, Ph.D., APA Division 44 Newsletter

"Warmly affirmative, realistic without being downbeat, and moving in its candor."—Library Journal

"Chattily and cogently written, this book offers solid advice to the majority of gays . . . on how to come to terms with themselves in both gay and mainstream society."—Publishers Weekly

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Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do?
My picture was in the paper when I was twenty-six years old because I was gay1 and bold, or crazy, enough to say so in 1974. I was a Catholic newspaper reporter and columnist who had just come out to my family and employer.I didn't know many gay people and had only been to one gay bar, but when the religion editor for The Detroit News asked if she could interview me about being gay and Catholic, I said "sure." Only a few months before, I had attempted suicide by drinking a bottle of paint thinner and I was
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  • Brian McNaught

  • Brian McNaught has been an educator about homosexuality since 1974. He is the author of fours books, including On Being Gay. He is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). He received the Mary Lee Tatum Award from Planned Parenthood for his contribution to the public's understanding of homosexuality. Brian McNaught splits his time between San Francisco, California and Provincetown, Massachusetts.